Creating True Friendships and Love In Your Life

By: Beau Miller

I was just thinking about the quality of my relationships. And about what it is that makes a true friend. There are a lot of tools out there that will teach you tricks and techniques on how to make people like you. And a lot of them are great, But I think many of them are missing a hugely important piece of the puzzle. And that is, you get what you give!

If you want people to like you, or love you, or adore you, then you need to learn to love them. I mean truly love them.

Many times I've found myself waiting for someone else to make the first move. For them to prove that they're trustworthy or lovable, by loving me first. I've waited for them to put themselves out there first, so that I wasn't risking anything. But it's not really a risk to love someone, or care for them. Where the pain comes from is when we expect something in return, and don't get it. Or when we're attached to a certain outcome that doesn't happen. But that's not love though, that's something else.

Many of us think we are giving love, when actually, we're just bartering for someone's attention. Giving them whatever we think is going to keep them around. Whatever it is that we'll get to them to behave how we want them to .

But Love allows the other person to be who they are, and still loves them. Love wants the best for the other person, and wouldn't hold them in a place that they didn't want to be just because we crave their company.

So next time you feel like you're missing something or wanting something, ask yourself "Am I giving it?". Every single religion or spiritual practice, that I know of, teaches the natural law of "reaping what you sow". That what you put out into the world, you get back. It may not always come from the same person, but it comes.

Another thing to consider, is how you treat yourself. Are you treating yourself the way you would treat someone you truly loved? This is extremely important. If your not giving yourself love and acceptance, then you are always going to be coming into a relationship needing that from the other person, and then the relationship becomes about what you can get.

So, start with loving yourself. That will give you a firm footing from which to truly care for and love others. And when you begin to do that, watch the magic begin.

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